Christofer and writer Sarah Fitz-Claridge speak about romantic relationships in this episode of Do Explain. They discuss problems with open relationships, why the standard take on monogamy is mistaken, the importance of commitment, relationship as a knowledge-creating institution, depth vs. breadth of knowledge, sexual connection, cheating, genetic impulses, love and acceptence, non-coercion, boundaries, and other related topics.
Sarah Fitz-Claridge is a Popperian writer, editor, coach and speaker with a background in Psychology and an irrepressibly optimistic, freedom-oriented world view. She started the journal that became Taking Children Seriously in the early 1990s and is currently working on her book on the subject.
Website: https://www.fitz-claridge.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/FitzClaridge
Shout-out links:
https://amarokoberle.com/
https://www.cgbessellieu.com/
https://twitter.com/optimysticism
Timestamps:
(2:27) - Sarah's historical view
(7:32) - Problems with open relationships
(12:28) - Monogamy as a knowledge-creation institution
(17:07) - Common misunderstandings of monogamy
(20:35) - Is a committed marriage for everybody?
(22:11) - Cheating and sex
(30:55) - Is sex fundamental?
(32:31) - Possessiveness
(37:14) - Selling out on your relationship
(43:30) - What makes monogamy better than singledom?
(48:19) - Epistemology of sex
(52:04) - Attachment
(54:56) - [TQ] Is self-love essential for good relationships?
(57:04) - Your perfect match
(1:01:35) - Being best friends with your partner
(1:03:24) - The role of love
(1:04:50) - Non-coercion and acceptance
(1:07:40) - The importance of boundaries
(1:12:00) - Are relationships necessary for a good life?
(1:16:32) - [TQ] Relationships and political systems
(1:18:25) - [TQ] When should a relationship end?
(1:19:56) - Deep disagreements and having children
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